At a Glance
- Pamela Anderson says she hasn’t spoken to ex-husband Tommy Lee in a long time
- She still tries to send him pickles and asks their sons about him
- Anderson expects to see Lee and his wife at their son Dylan’s wedding on June 26
- Why it matters: The actress opens up about wanting a better co-parenting bond as their children start new chapters
Pamela Anderson still thinks about her ex-husband Tommy Lee. During a new interview on SiriusXM’s Andy Cohen Live, the 58-year-old actress shared that she hasn’t spoken to the Mötley Crüe drummer in a while, yet she keeps trying to stay connected.
A Wedding Reunion Ahead
Anderson expects to come face-to-face with Lee, 63, and his wife Brittany Furlan Lee, 39, later this month.
“My son Dylan’s getting married soon, so I’ll see them at the wedding,” she told host Andy Cohen, 57. The celebration is set for June 26.
She added that she has made repeated efforts to reach out to Lee over the years, especially when their two sons spend time with him.
- Sons Brandon Thomas, 27, and Dylan Jagger, 26, visit their father regularly
- Anderson always asks the boys how Lee is doing
- She even attempted to mail him pickles as a friendly gesture
“He rejected your pickles?” Cohen asked.
“My kids just said, ‘Mom, just…,’ I don’t know what it is,” Anderson replied. “I have to stay out of it, and I shouldn’t really be saying anything, but I do wish them the best. I hope everything’s okay.”
Hopes for Better Communication
Cohen pressed further, asking whether Anderson specifically wishes Lee well.
“Yes,” she answered.
The host then wondered if communication might improve if Lee weren’t married to Furlan. Anderson replied, “I do.”
She elaborated:
- “I just think he’s a real romantic”
- “He’s very dedicated to his wife”
- “He just doesn’t want to cause any waves”
Despite the distance, Anderson voiced a clear desire for change.
“But I wish we had a better relationship,” she said. “I haven’t spoken to him in a long time. I miss him, and I – just with the kids getting married and having grandkids, we’re always going to be connected in some way.”
Past Attempts at Contact
Anderson’s recent statements follow earlier comments about occasional texting.
- In 2023 she told The Howard Stern Show that she and Lee “text here and there”
- That same year she told News Of Los Angeles they would “check in with each other every once in a while”
The pair’s history stretches back to the mid-1990s.
Timeline of Their Relationship
| Year | Event |
|---|---|
| 1995 | Wed after a whirlwind romance |
| 1996 | Son Brandon born |
| 1997 | Son Dylan Jagger born |
| 1998 | Divorced |
Since then, both have moved on to other relationships.
Anderson’s Marriages After Lee
- Kid Rock (2006-2007)
- Rick Salomon (married 2007, annulled 2008, remarried and divorced again 2014)
- Jon Peters (widely reported 12-day marriage in 2020, though Anderson later said they never legally wed)
- Bodyguard Dan Hayhurst (married January 2021, split by January 2022)
Lee, meanwhile, met comedian Brittany Furlan on the celebrity dating app Raya in 2017. The couple married in February 2019 and remain together.
Looking Ahead
With Dylan’s wedding approaching, Anderson is preparing for a family gathering that will bring both parents and their new partners into the same room. She expressed hope that the event could serve as a chance for cordial interaction, even as she acknowledged the complicated dynamics.
For now, Anderson continues to send good wishes from afar, keeps tabs on Lee through their sons, and holds out hope that time might soften the distance between them.
