> At a Glance
> – A Mumsnet user says her husband forgot her “big birthday” even after she sent him direct links to gifts
> – The woman received no card, flowers, or present on the day
> – A belated meal was “badly planned” with the wrong guests and restaurant
> – Why it matters: Readers debate whether forgetting a spouse’s birthday signals deeper relationship issues
A woman who says she “loves giving and receiving presents” has turned to an online forum after her husband completely forgot her milestone birthday, despite her providing a detailed wish list.
The Forgotten Day
Writing on Mumsnet, the wife explained she had emailed her husband links to specific gifts because he “isn’t very good at gift-giving” and she “didn’t want to be disappointed.”
On the morning of her birthday, nothing arrived. She still hoped for an after-work surprise, but when her parents showed up with cards and flowers, the husband looked “confused” and suddenly realized the date.
The Belated Celebration
Days later he organized a make-up dinner, yet the woman calls it “very badly planned”:
- The guest list included people she “wouldn’t normally invite”
- They went to a restaurant they “wouldn’t usually book”
- Service was “pretty poor”
Forum Reaction
Fellow posters urged her to spell out her frustration. One wrote:
> “He should put a reminder in his phone, stick a post-it on his laptop, whatever he needs to do. Failing is unacceptable.”
Another said:
> “If your husband wanted to remember, he would. But he didn’t.”
Key Takeaways
- The wife feels “really disappointed” by the lack of effort
- Commenters call the husband “thoughtless” and suggest clear communication
- Some advise re-evaluating the relationship if birthday forgetfulness continues
She now must decide whether to keep her spouse “in the doghouse” or accept his lapse as a one-off oversight.
