> At a Glance
> – A 23-year-old living with his girlfriend’s family says daily insults are pushing him toward “snapping”
> – The grandfather labels him “lazy, fat, stupid” and worse, despite the man cooking and cleaning while job-hunting
> – No income after losing job to illness; savings gone and he fears yelling back will get him kicked out
> – Why it matters: Shows how financial stress and verbal abuse collide in multigenerational homes
A Reddit post on the “Am I The A——?” forum details how a 23-year-old is enduring daily verbal jabs from his girlfriend’s grandfather while living under the same roof and hunting for work.
The Living Situation
The couple, plus the girlfriend’s sister, cousin and grandpa, share a house the grandfather owns. After the man caught an illness that cost him his job, his savings dried up and he now has no money to contribute to bills.
He applies to five jobs a week but faces only rejections or silence. To stay useful he:
- Cleans common areas
- Cooks his own meals when his girlfriend is away
- Helps with household chores
Source of Tension
The grandfather skipped years of mortgage payments, creating money pressure for everyone. The 23-year-old believes this stress fuels the name-calling.
The boyfriend wrote:
> “He calls me names like ‘lazy, fat, stupid’ or sometimes worse.”
His girlfriend sides with him, finding the relatives’ behavior unacceptable for “people who are supposed to be more mature.”
What Happens Next
Fearing eviction, the man has not yet replied with insults but feels close.
Commenters urged:
- Blast out dozens of retail or service applications daily
- Take any job, however “menial,” to afford moving out
- Avoid snapping; it won’t improve the living dynamic
Key Takeaways
- Daily insults from the grandfather are eroding the man’s mental health
- Job-search volume needs to jump from five a week to dozens a day, users advise
- Any work that funds an exit could break the hostile living cycle
The post captures a snapshot of how job loss, housing dependence and family friction can push relationships to the edge.
