At a Glance
- Alana Underwood, Kevin Jankay and Megan Smith have lived as a committed throuple since January 2021
- They share a home, a dog and a 600-square-foot apartment with one bathroom and a queen-plus-air-mattress bed
- Their TikTok account @CampThrouple has 300,000 followers and counting
- Why it matters: Their story challenges traditional relationship norms and shows how non-monogamous partnerships can thrive
In 2020 Alana Underwood faced a choice: end her three-year relationship with Kevin Jankay to explore her bisexuality or invite another woman into their partnership. They chose the latter. Six years later the couple is still together-now as a throuple with Megan Smith.
From Experiment to Forever
Underwood had “operated as straight” her entire life. She told News Of Los Angeles she wanted to explore her attraction to women while staying with Jankay. They agreed to what she assumed would be a “one-off, sexual experience.”
They met Smith on a dating app while Smith was still married. After a month of texting the four met in person. Underwood was nervous-it was her first romantic experience with a woman. “Luckily, Megan over there was very confident and helped me through it,” she says.
Initially the relationship was “purely sexual,” Jankay admits. Yet on the two-hour drives home he and Underwood realized deeper feelings were forming. Four months later Smith and her wife divorced for unrelated reasons. After a brief pause the trio reunited and officially became a throuple in January 2021.
Life in 600 Square Feet
The early days tested them. They squeezed into a 600-square-foot apartment with one bathroom and a queen bed pushed against an air mattress. Every night they rotated who slept in the middle.
“The middle spot-it has its pros and cons,” Underwood says. “It’s nice because you get to snuggle with both partners, but it gets really, really hot.”
Underwood and Jankay, already cohabiting, worked to ensure Smith never felt like the third wheel. “We were very aware of how she could feel,” Underwood says. “I think there could be the opportunity to feel jealous or left out, but we’ve just been very aware about that.”
They learned that perfect equality among three people is unrealistic. Instead they embraced the unique dynamic each pair shares.
“The way you love each individual person is different,” Smith explains. “That doesn’t mean it’s more or less-it’s just a different type of relationship.”
Coming Out-Times Three
Telling family brought mixed reactions. Smith’s mom, described as a “total hippie,” supported them immediately. Underwood’s parents were stunned but quickly rallied, asking practical questions like whether the trio had gone camping together.
Jankay’s mother was less accepting. After he shared the news she called to say she “wasn’t OK” with the relationship. They didn’t speak for two years. Now they communicate in “baby steps,” though she avoids discussing his partners.
“We believe that everybody’s on their journey and love can overcome everything,” Jankay says. “There’s no animosity or anger.”
Going Viral
To demystify polyamory they launched TikTok’s @CampThrouple. Their first video exploded overnight, hitting 300,000 views by morning. “We were like, ‘Oh, s—,’ ” Smith recalls.
They now post comedic and educational clips for nearly 300,000 followers, answering recurring questions:
- Yes, they share one bed
- No, jealousy isn’t rampant-they talk through it
- Yes, they consider themselves a family
Their favorite messages come from parents who say the videos help them understand what a future with a polyamorous child could look like.
No One-Size-Fits-All
The trio stresses they aren’t evangelists for polyamory. Smith isn’t sure she’d pursue another throuple if this relationship ended.
“We just happen to find a match with each other and it flows and it works correctly,” she says. “I think people should do whatever makes them happy and what they’re comfortable with.”
Underwood echoes the sentiment: “I think people should do whatever makes them happy and what they’re comfortable with.”
Today they live in a spacious Colorado house with-blessedly-three bathrooms. Jankay says the setup feels “so normal” because they’re together constantly. Their pyramid structure, he notes, provides “double the support and double the affection,” plus a neutral third perspective during arguments.
Key Takeaways
- Underwood never planned a throuple; she wanted to explore her bisexuality while preserving her existing relationship
- Practical logistics-sleeping arrangements, bathroom schedules-demanded constant negotiation
- Family acceptance varied widely, highlighting the social hurdles polyamorous families face
- Social media offered both community and backlash, yet their authenticity attracted hundreds of thousands of followers
- All three emphasize their dynamic is personal, not prescriptive; polyamory isn’t for everyone, but communication and consent are
