> At a Glance
> – A U.K. woman discovered she was excluded from her university friend’s $600 Cotswolds spa bachelorette weekend
> – The bride later admitted she cut the woman for being “a bit of a nightmare drunk”
> – The excluded friend, asked to do a wedding reading, felt “demoted to second-tier” status
> – Why it matters: The story highlights how wedding-party politics can upend long-standing friendships
A Mumsnet post has gone viral after a woman revealed she was axed from a close friend’s 12-person bachelorette trip-only to learn her party behavior was the reason.
The Invitation That Never Came
The woman, who met the bride at university, saw the WhatsApp group flash across her screen but never received an invite. The spa weekend carried a $600-per-guest price tag and capped attendance at a dozen of the bride’s “favorite girls.”
She had assumed they were “properly close”:
- They organized playdates for their kids
- Vacationed together
- She hosted the bride’s baby shower
- She was asked to do a reading at the wedding
The Truth Emerges
After fielding questions from Mumsnet users, the poster texted the bride. The reply was blunt: her history of being “a bit of a nightmare drunk” landed her on the no-invite list.
> “I’m gutted and embarrassed and feel like I’ve been demoted to second-tier friend,” she wrote.
Forum replies were split. Some said the bride’s stance was understandable; others called it odd to include her in the ceremony yet exclude her from the celebration.
Key Takeaways
- Wedding roles don’t guarantee bachelorette invites
- Up-front conversations can prevent hidden hurt
- Alcohol-fueled reputations can cost friendships
The bride’s honesty closed the loop, but the friendship may need serious repair before the vows are exchanged.
